Have you ever wished you could go back in time and relive all of your feelings for each other on your first date? So, here are a few suggestions to help you reclaim that old feeling.
The truth is that life can take its toll, and sometimes we just grow a little too old with one another, so we must work hard to bring our youthful selves back to the forefront.
Although our physical selves will continue to age, this does not imply that we must also age emotionally. Yes, there will be days when things become routine, but we can always count on a little excitement every now and then. Don’t you think so?
Now, I think this is an idea that you should only use once in a while. Simply because, if used too frequently, it, too, would become a predictable routine. Furthermore, because it is based on timing and money.
And since neither of those things is always available when we want them to be… you might have to stash this one away until you find the right time to use it.
The Date Is Getting Closer…
I was thinking that spending a few days apart from each other would be a fun thing to do when things get a little stale. Before I go any further, let me state that this is not a bad thing. If you’re up for a small adventure, this is all designed to add a little extra fun to the mix.
You two may get along famously, but if you’re looking for a little more festivity, this could be the place to be.
Here’s how I see it all coming together…
You and your partner can sit down and decide who will spend a couple of days away from home. If you have a relative in town, this could be an option, or if money isn’t an issue, you could stay in a hotel for a couple of days.
Once you’ve reached an agreement, it’s time to put the rest of the plan into action.
So, let’s say your husband decides to stay in a hotel for a couple of nights.
You might be wondering why he needs to leave the house at all right now.
There is, however, one very important reason why this is a good idea. When you and your partner separate and spend some time apart, working without each other for several days heightens the anticipation of seeing each other again.
You two are able to reconnect with the reality of being apart. Things will happen during your day that you will be able to discuss later, and vice versa.
Another reason is that it makes you appreciate the other person. We sometimes take each other for granted, but when we spend time apart, it’s much easier to realize how important that person is to us.
But I don’t want to get ahead of myself; it’ll make more sense as I go, and by the time you’re finished reading it, it’ll all make sense.
So, now that you’ve both agreed that he’ll be gone for a few days, the next step is to go a few days without making any initial contact with one another. One day is too short for me, two days is about right, and three days is just right. But, in the end, how many days is entirely up to you.
Once you’ve established that and he’s ready to leave, you’ll want to make sure you have no idea where he’s staying. It’s critical that he keep this a secret.
Now, for emergency purposes, he may want to give you the phone number of the hotel where he’s staying, so you’ll have a phone number where you can locate him in the event of an emergency. As a result, he is not obligated to tell you the name of the hotel or its location. Just a phone number to call if you need to contact him.
After that, simply store it in a secure location and trust yourself not to use it unless absolutely necessary.
Now that he’s gone and the house isn’t the same without him, consider the following inventive ideas to turn this situation into a one-of-a-kind adventure full of romance and excitement…
All those days you were alone without him… Keep them in mind because they will come in handy. Because on day three, it is his responsibility to call you, whether at work or at home, and ask you out on a date!
Once you accept, you can set a time for him to come and pick you up for your date.
I know the house has been quiet while he’s been gone. It’s not enjoyable. But now you have something exciting to look forward to. Getting back together… as well as shopping for a new dress!
That’s right, while he’s attempting to woo you, you can impress him.
You haven’t seen each other in three days, and he wants to take you somewhere neither of you has been before. Where? Who can say? That is his decision. But wherever you go, you should dress to impress so that when he arrives at your door, he will be greeted with his reward for all of his hard work–a stunning beauty by his side!
As a result, it’s critical to buy something he’s never seen you in before. Something you’re certain he’d enjoy. Just like any other first date.
Whether he decides to take you to a new restaurant, for a walk along the beach, or for an intimate dinner at his home, this is where all of the important or insignificant events over the next few days will have some meaning.
Even though you’ve only been apart for three days, there’s a good chance you have a lot to talk about. When you love someone and are accustomed to their presence, three days apart can elicit a wide range of emotions.
It’s a good time to express how you feel and how much you appreciate each other during your date. There are certain valuable things that each of you bring to the table of your marriage, and perhaps during your time apart… you got to see how much he offered you on a daily basis.
And, to top it all off… Things in your life may have happened in the last few days that he would normally be present to witness. This time, he wasn’t. So why not catch up with him? It facilitates good conversation, similar to a typical date scenario.
You’ve arrived to enjoy the evening together, you’ve enjoyed the fine wine and nice dinner, and perhaps you’ve had some chemistry on the dance floor. Aside from that, you’ve been captivated by his dashing good looks and charismatic smile.
Then, as the night comes to a close, you decide it’s time to leave. You had a wonderful evening, and you reconnected on the way home.
At least, you think you’re going home until he invites you back to his place (the hotel). You agree.
At the hotel, the two of you talk for several hours more, and you eventually find that old familiar chemistry drawing you closer together once more. So you decide to spend the night at his house.
Before I go any further, please bear with me. Let’s go back in time…
You two are getting along great. Everything is going well. He invites you back to his house on the way home. You refuse. He accepts the bittersweet rejection with grace. He drops you off at home and walks you up to the front door.
“I had a good time tonight.”
“I did, too,” he says as he leans in for a kiss (he knows he can’t help himself). He’s been drawn in by the laws of attraction all night).
“I’d like to invite you in for a cup of coffee…” (We can all guess what that means!)
“Sure. “Coffee sounds delicious,” he says as he follows you inside.
Of course, the likelihood of either of you saying or doing any of that is slim to none, unless you’re role-playing, but it was a lot of fun to write. I couldn’t help myself. I was having a great time!
No, but seriously, all of that was written for a reason. Clearly, you’re reinventing the first date. One in which you can design your own adventure.
The hotel concept can be used not only as a way for the two of you to spend three days apart, but also as an exciting incentive if you want that one-night-stand appeal with your husband–by returning to “his place,” which was the significance behind you not knowing where he was staying.
If you don’t know where he’s staying, it’s all a mystery, and the suspense can add a lot of fun to an already exciting night.
However, he might be homesick and want to go home that night, which is why the alternate ending is above.
The fun of it is that so much of it is a wild card. You both have surprises in store for each other, as well as the pleasure of reestablishing intimacy in a new way while you choose your own adventure!